Making a living for....

The other day I was scrolling through Pinterest and saw a picture about not forgetting to make a life while making a living. It clearly got me thinking...

I work well over 40 hours in 4 days a week and then either have my kids or focus on starting my own business. Even with splitting 50/50 custody with my ex, there are not enough hours in the day. I seriously have no idea where they all go. My significant other is a full time EMT and works for his dad's wall papering company on his days off. We are very busy people. There are days I'm asleep when he comes home and he's asleep when I leave in the morning. We try to make sure we have one weekend a month that's just us but with that time we want to spend time together catching up or getting all the things done we had been putting off and need to get done. So where does the time come in to the equation to make a life outside of us? We don't even have the time to enjoy an HBO free weekend. Maybe one day we will win the lottery and then we can focus on making lives instead of a living. Until then, back to work I go.....

The Back Story

I figure before we start this I should fill you in the the back story. I know by reading the about me you might think "30? Mom of 2? She has got to be jumping right back into marriage" and I can understand how an outsider might think that, I would think that if I wasn't living it. The truth is I made decisions young, decisions I'm now a firm believer you should not be allowed to make that young, just like owning a credit card. One moment I'm a 22 year old new mom and the next thing you know I'm 28 years old, have two kids and am so miserable in my marriage that I asked for a divorce. Here's the kicker, I'm still not divorced (we'll get to that). Another lesson I learned young is divorce is expensive and even more expensive when you are young and don't have the funds for it. Almost three years ago we agreed our marriage was over and two and a half years ago we fully separated. We have both moved on with our lives and been in relationships. My ex has been in a few and I embraced the new found freedom and spiraled a little bit, until I reconnected with a friend from when I was a teenager. The world stopped and I didn't want the freedom anymore, he is the other half to me that I found when I wasn't even looking. To say he has been my rock in hard times is an understatement and a year after dating I knew where this was going so I introduced him to my kids and we officially moved in together. It was rocky at first but now a year later it has gotten much easier.

I know that was a lot of math and drawn out so the cliff notes version is- my significant other and I are approaching our 2nd year anniversary and the subject of marriage and kids are fresh on our brains. He says ready to take the leap and with the lessons I have had under my belt, I am too.

That pretty much brings us to today......... Getting my divorce FINALLY done, raising two kids and thinking about planning my grown up wedding